“Look at children. Of course they may quarrel, but generally speaking they do not harbor ill feelings as much or as long as adults do. Most adults have the advantage of education over children, but what is the use of an education if they show a big smile while hiding negative feelings deep inside? Children don’t usually act in such a manner. If they feel angry with someone, they express it, and then it is finished. They can still play with that person the following day.”
― Dalai Lama XIV
Let’s take a scenario, two friends probably aged 10 fought… why? One of the friend said to the other that her dress doesn’t look good; the other friend got hurt and started crying. Now this is quite a big deal between 10 year olds, don’t you think? Yet the former friend apologized and consoled for her act because she felt bad and the fact that she made her friend cry affected her. They hugged each other and were back to what THEY WERE-“GOOD FRIENDS”
It is amazing how children will always be better than what we will EVER be. They have the greatest personalities of all, they have the decency to forgive, to let go and to makes things ever happy no matter what the situation is. As we’re growing older, our thinking has become stagnant and isolated rather than open and liberated. It’s like we are advancing with age but our minds have shrunk.
We are people who never see two sides to a story, or believe that our beliefs apply to everybody, and most of all we can’t see the world from another perspective. We have chosen ego centrism as our way of life. We have to admit that if it’s associated with ego, then it’s not for the soul. Why has materialism taken over healthy relationships? We seek individualism and selfishness over things that initially mean the world to us. We choose those things and those actions which can be better off for us.
We start producing hatred for the ones who try to make things normal. We think asking and giving clarifications or explanations will make things complicated. We think it will not resolve the problem but will aggravate it. That’s where we are wrong. We don’t realize life is too short to have grudges in heart. It is too short to fill yourself with ego. It is too short to lose the ones YOU LOVE.
It’s pretty distressing to see how people make relationships worse just because they’re too stuck up to admit their own mistakes or because they can’t get over their egoistic issues.
My World! 