Allah; happiness


Sometimes missing Allah Taala feels so good. It gives the sense of attachment. It gives the feeling of owning something very special. And afraid of loosing it. You can understand it by imagining the love of your husband/parents What feeling you get when you think about them being dead and you have to survive without them? For me, immediately I wish to be the first one to die because thought of living without them itself haunts me. Why? Because I feel incomplete without my husband. I feel he is my supporter. My best friend, my life-line.

Whenever I get this feeling, I reflect on myself. How materialistic my thinking is. If I would have ever get the same feeling for my beloved Allah Taala , how beautiful it would become.

Alhamdullilah the feeling I have for my husband is halal too. Allah Taala loves me when I look my husband with love. I feel proud to have a husband like him Alhamdullilah infinite times.

But if I develop the same feelings for Allah Taala, it would make it more beautiful. That shivering of body on the thought of loosing Allah. The teary eyes when thinking about loosing Allah would make Allah so happy. Making Allah my best friend would make Allah so happy. Making him my life-line would make Allah so happy.

Making Allah Taala happy is easy. He wants to be our best friend, life-line. We are just afraid of making him our best friend.

Allah Taala please be my best friend. I don’t want to loose you. Pretty please.

Only yours,

A sinner

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Message from a mother to YOU


“You should breastfeed your child. You give top feed? So cruel.”

“Oh your kid is almost 3, and you have not potty-trained him yet?”

“Oh your kid is 3, you don’t send him to school?”

“Oh, your kid goes to day care. You are such a merciless mom, aiming your dreams while your kid is being neglected”

“Your kid is so hyper”

“Your kid is so naughty. You should scold him”

“Don’t scold your kid. He is too small. Let him have fun. This is his age”

These and many more comments which I and mothers like me listen on daily basis, reminds me of an example.

A man and his son were once going with their donkey to market. As they were walking along, a man passed them and said, “You fools, what is a donkey for but to ride upon?” So the man put the boy on the donkey, and they went on their way.

But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said, “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

So the man ordered his boy to get off, and got on the donkey. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other, “Shame on that lazy man to let his poor little son walk.”

Well, the man didn’t know what to do. So he took his boy on donkey also. They passed another group of men. They started saying, “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey ”

Finally, because of all comments and pressures, they took donkey on their head.

The reason to share the story is to make mothers understand that it is not possible to take all opinions and comments in consideration. Understand this. You need to stop negativities coming in your life.

I hope this post not only helps me but everyone who faces this. I am sure everyone faces this. Why? Because I think it is an ongoing chain. You were being pressurized so you feel that you have to give pressure to others also.

Dear women who love commenting, either on breastfeeding issue, or schooling issue, or anything.

1. First and foremost, you are not allowed to comment on anyone’s personal life. You don’t know the situation or circumstance of the other party. You don’t know the situation of the mother. Maybe she cries all night just because of your one comment.

2. If you are a mother, you should know that no mother wants bad for her kid. No mother teaches her child to be hyper. No mother likes her child pushing and hitting other children.

4. Understand that everyone have their opinions. If they contradicts yours, tolerate it.

5. Last but not least, don’t jump to conclusions

Your child is awesome. He was completely on breast feed. He spoke early. He is well mannered. He is good in education. Well done. Good for you. I pray for your kid to prosper more.

But dear mom, please understand that maybe someone might not have enough milk to feed her baby completely. Maybe her kid is hyper active and she knows it. But she cannot do anything about it. Maybe she is still struggling with depression and crying because of your “unwanted” comments.

Dear mom, today you are in a better position than her. But try to empathize and understand the situation. Please put yourself in other shoes. I don’t think there is any strict right and wrong in parenting. There might be some signs that maybe something is not right. But if you see any mom struggling, help her instead of judging and bashing her.

May Allah give me and everyone of us, toufeeq to raise their children according to sunnah. We are not capable of doing anything. Every other day I feel helpless. I feel trapped. I feel my life has big changes. Allah Taala shows that it is He who can help. We cannot do anything. These kids are real test, an azmaish.

Hazrat Nuh Alaihissalam, Prophet in Islam, was so obedient to Allah. Could he save his son? Was he able to change his son’s thinking?

To all moms, you are best. Keep trying. Keep struggling. We are only mukkalif (responsible) of showing Allah that we tried best to do tarbiyah. We have been given supplications to hold on. Lets keep everyone in duaas. May this motherhood be easy for everyone.

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَام

“Our Lord! Grant us that our spouses and our offspring be a joy to our eyes, and do make us the leaders of the God-fearing.” (Quran, 25:74)

قَالَ رَبِّ اَوۡزِعۡنِىۡۤ اَنۡ اَشۡكُرَ نِعۡمَتَكَ الَّتِىۡۤ اَنۡعَمۡتَ عَلَىَّ وَعَلٰى وَالِدَىَّ وَاَنۡ اَعۡمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرۡضٰٮهُ وَاَصۡلِحۡ لِىۡ فِىۡ ذُرِّيَّتِىۡ ؕۚ اِنِّىۡ تُبۡتُ اِلَيۡكَ وَاِنِّىۡ مِنَ الۡمُسۡلِمِيۡنَ

My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims.” (Quran, 46:15)

رَبَّنَا لاَ تُزِغْ قُلُوبَنَا بَعْدَ إِذْ هَدَيْتَنَا وَهَبْ لَنَا مِن لَّدُنكَ رَحْمَةً إِنَّكَ أَنتَ الْوَهَّابُ

Our Lord, let not our hearts deviate after You have guided us and grant us from Yourself mercy. Indeed, You are the Bestower.” (Quran, 3:8)

Homeschooling experiment5


Till now the experiment is going well Alhamdullilah. We are done with capital letters and almost done with small letters too. He is picking really fast mashaAllah.

We have also started Urdu language and doing well Alhamdullilah.

So this is how I proceeded.

So I made these capital and small alphabets on colored papers. For a week, I played with him showing him this is capital A and this is small A and then I started asking him gradually. I started from similar alphabets like S, P, X, Y, Z to boost his confidence that he is telling all correctly. Appreciation is a key to teach anything. Even if a child is answering wrong, deal him correctly. For example, if he gives small “b” instead of “d”. Tell him he is correct. It is just that the stomach of “d” has moved from left to right and it becomes “b”.

Other than that, if you allow your kids to have mobile, you can download “ABC kids”. It is very interactive and informative with NO ADS. The stickers I showed in last post also helped us a lot in identifying capital and small letter alphabets. I used to write alphabets on colorful paper with marker and then I used to ask fawaaz which letter is this. After that I used to give him sticker sheet to identify the letter from it and paste it on paper. It was successful Alhamdullilah

I also plan to make an activity from plastic spoon. Half of them will have capital letters and half of them will have small letters and then you ask your kid to combine them. Refer to picture below

For urdu alphabets, I had to really work hard. There are not much activities and flash cards on internet. So I really hope that this blog may benefit someone inshaAllah.

Since I am lazy mom, I cannot draw pictures. I downloaded apps. Took screen shots. Printed them out. Cut them. I took Fawaaz pamper carton. Cut the card size and then pasted flash card on it. And covered it with transparent tape.

I know it is too much. And it took us 6 hours to make. Thanks to my dear husband . He helped me out cutting the carton otherwise it wasn’t easy. By the way, to make things more easy, you can laminate the paper.

Other than this, I made Urdu book myself. Still have to paste pictures on it. But since fawaaz is already enjoying it so I am lazy to print, cut and paste.

Then this is our new wall. He knows numbers from 1-10. He can recognize till 7 when randomly asked. To be honest, I didn’t work on it separately. Thanks to the elevator. He presses all buttons and while controlling my temper, I try to tell him that we live on 7th floor and the button you pressed is “xyz” ( since he presses all, so i have to explain him all floor numbers)

For colors, i am still struggling. He is picking up names of things but not colors. For example, if Fawaaz asks ” what is this?” Pointing towards car. I reply “it is blue car”. “It is white car” but when he repeats me, he always says “car”. But I am assuming that on back of his mind, he must be identifying colors. Nonetheless, I am in no hurry. Slow and steady inshaAllah.

About Arabic, it is on hold. I am afraid he will mix up Arabic and Urdu if I take both of them along.

We are still struggling with taking English and Urdu along. Should we tell kitaab or book? Soap or sabun? Etc etc. I think it will resolve with time. For now, we are making it simple, we are telling him what we use in every day conversation like we usually say Book instead of kitaab. And we usually timater instead of tomatoe. So we taught him timator 🤣

I don’t know if you people can relate to it, but these are some “real” problems we are facing. Japanese is completely different from English. He listens and speaks Japanese at day care. We speak in Urdu with him. And everywhere else, we talk in English. So he is listening three languages in a day. Sometimes, i really feel bad for him 🤣 but he should thank me for not starting Arabic =p

Well I think until he turns 3, I am going to continue teaching Urdu and English Alphabets only. After that, I will see if I should start english two letter words or wait more.

P.s- He hasn’t even started to speak clearly because of listening diverse languages.

The link for Urdu flash cards. You can download them freely

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-8fR4Dd18MsMH8F0d0ui4x2G1r_5N4ZH

To read previous posts click below:

Homeschooling 4

Homeschooling 3

Homeschooling 2

Homeschooling 1

Homeschooling experiment 4


Slow and steady wins the race.

Before reading ahead, you should know that you are the best mom in the world and no one knows how to handle your kid but you know only!

Having said that, I was busy in my own mess lately so couldn’t write much. Not to forget laziness also.

Well, following is the progress we have made. Fawaaz is now 2 years and 8 months now. Pretty grown up.

We reached letter “P”. But he can recognize all letters now except N, R, S and Q. I don’t know why. Maybe I didn’t bothered trying to make him recognize =p *you see laziness*

Secondly, can you see light bulb we made?

We made it out of tissue roll and messed papers. Make ball from papers and cover them with colored shiny paper. In japan we have origami. It is very famous in children. They make different things from origami. You can check out the link if you have time and you want to be more creative.

https://www.thesprucecrafts.com/origami-4162885

This is flower we made from tissue roll again. Fawaaz helped in cutting. And he did glue job. Obviously I did rest. He got busy in cutting other papers.

Fawaaz solo work. I pasted this on wall to appreciate him. And trust me, every morning he says pointing it “pyara pyara” because this is what i said when he showed me his creativity.

Kids need attention and appreciation. Simple.

P.s – this creativity is better than picking all small cuttings from carpet 😖 *laziness speaking*

He knows these names now Alhamdullilah . This puzzle is from 100 yen shop. 😉

I think he is having difficulty in remembering colors. I think it is not right time for him but we try to tell him name of everything with colours. Like ” this is blue car” “this is red car”

So we got this from Pakistan. Fawaaz can only recognize blue for now. And red only in his cars. Lets see when he picks rest.

I am using it since long time now. You can see its condition. Fawaaz can put all shapes correct but he only knows triangle, square, heart and circle if asked randomly.

But to be honest, I also did not know names of these shapes before I got this for Fawaaz 🤭 so I think it is totally ok.

These are stickers from 100 yen shop. But my laziness didn’t let fawaaz open the packet and I pretended as if this is to be read as it is. We read it like rhyme for a week or two and then finally I opened the packet in front of fawaaz, leaving him with shocked face.

We put sticker on flash cards and then I hid rest of them. *evil mom*

Fawaaz is taking interest in paper crafts these days. So whenever I need break, I give him glue, scissor and papers. I watch him doing mess while sipping tea. Baby happy mama happy. All happy.

#lazy mom

Your vision?


Everyday I am asking myself the purpose of doing what I am doing. What is my vision? Where will it take me? Am I doing things out of purpose or it is just what society is dragging me into.

If I have a purpose, is it worth pursuing? Or is it just garbage?

If we answer these questions everyday, every second. Our habit of regretting everything every time will get extremely low and we will actually start enjoying our life.

Today in class, there was a line “Destination is not the aim , process of getting there is what matters”

I highly disagree it as a Muslim.

Reason?

You can think yourself.