Self-obsessed


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Why don’t people appreciate what they should? Why do they feel shame in expressing others quality. Why do they call “chowra” to the one who actually knows something. Who actually stand up for something. Why don’t they accept the fact that he is worth it. He has more experience than us. Why people don’t do anything themselves if they can do? Why don’t they encourage others participation. Why they think that involving others will make them small? Maybe because they feel insecure about it. They feel they will be ignored and someone else will rule them. Because they don’t have potential to make up a team and involve ideas. Because they are so self-obsessed.

Yes self-obsessed!! They cannot think of someone else ruling them. They are unable to come out of themselves. Neither they do anything nor they can see anyone else doing. Remember, to be successful you have to put your ego aside. There can be nothing as a ONE MAN SHOW. You can not achieve anything without the words such as appreciations, cooperation and compromises. You have to expand your mental ability. You have to put your “I AM” aside to give place to “YOU ARE” to be successful. You should empathize the person before blurting out even a word. You should ask yourself if you are compatible before degrading someone.

To speak is easy; To do take lots of effort!

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Accept my changes!


How is it possible for one to oppose an act that is actually supposed to be implemented? How can one prove a right thing as wrong? How can one ask the other not to follow the right path?

Alhamdullilah, when Allah starts changing a person or shows him the right path, He gives him the courage to tolerate all the criticism that follows. He makes the person strong enough to fight for the right decision. He holds the hand of His creation and guides him through all the hurdles. The person automatically starts having a firm belief that he is for his Creator and not for anyone else. He is living this life to obey Allah and any one else can’t do any little thing to him.

He realizes that maybe today he is suffering but tomorrow he will get a reward much higher than what he is suffering today and that reward won’t be for limited life say 30 or 40 years but for the unending life hereafter.

These days I am going through that phase in which people are not able to accept my changes. I can’t make a list of things that I am trying to ignore or trying to eradicate completely from my life because there is no point of saying WORDS when one can’t ACT on it. There are many tensions and conflicts regarding me getting religious day by day but this is what I am now and they have to accept it in any case.

“Endless conversation about change is a barrier. Actually committing to doing something and then acting is what is required”- David Jakes

I know I was wrong and what I am today is what I should be. I remember the day when I took the first step to prosperity, I asked Allah to give me the courage and strength to stay firm on it and to provide me with tolerance to face all kinds of obstacles.Today I am far away from what I was. Alhamdulillah Allah changed me and showed me what is right. He protected me from evil. I know there is still more to go.

I am well aware about what is permissible and what is not and that if I turn my face against what is right;it will not leave me Muslim anymore but will make me Kafir. This is not what I say, this is what Quran says.

 “They wish that you reject faith as they have rejected (faith), and thus that you all become equal (like one another kafir).” (An-Nisaa’: 89).

Well I still face obstacles and I still loose hope but deep within me is something that pushes me to stand for what is right. I am struggling and I will keep struggling. I am already full of sins and don’t want to be more.

May Allah give me more patience and strength to face the hurdles and the obstacles. May Allah purify my heart. Ameen.

“I AM- a journey to self discovery” – Event Coverage


To make a Better “You” out of YOUTH, to enable you to think out of CUBE!- is the mission CUBE screams of!

Before starting the summary of the event “I AM”, let’s know something about the CUBE.

‘Cube’ is an organization founded by young and energetic Mr. Umair Lodhi who is working for the personal development and empowerment of the youth of Pakistan, to help them realize their potentials, by which they won’t only be better able to understand themselves but also they will be able to work for the betterment of the country. 
Cube’s events are not boring seminar/speech/lecture in which you sit and listen about how to or how you can, it`s something more than that. Cube has the ability to inject the dose of fun and excitement. They emphasize TO DO rather than TO THINK how to do. Cube events consist of activities which make you brainstorm OUT OF THE CUBE!
Best communicator for The YOUTH is the YOUTH. CUBE‘s team is a part of youth circle who helps Pakistan youth to grow and accomplish their goals. They enhance their skills to handle different situations in their personal and professional life at an early age.
 


These are some words from one of the 35 attendees- Sabir Shah- who took out some of his precious time to explain me his feelings about the event. Special thanks to him!

 

“Mere andar bas aik masla hai…nai nai..wo nai..masla ye hai k mein decision nai le paata” were the words I heard as I opened the T2F door in which “I AM” was being conducted by the CUBE team.

The venue selected was far away from everyone’s approach. We travelled so far for attending hardly 3 hours session. I got late because of SUN-DAY traffic jams and finding T2F was itself a difficult task! After finding THE SECOND FLOOR T2F, I sighed with relief and pushed the door with ‘peace niche’ written on it. There were some Urdu literature books leaning to a brick pillar as I entered the gate. There was an interesting board above those books quoting ‘Parhein ya na Parhein, le to lain URDU ka bhala hoga’. The sentence made me smile because these days everyone is running after ENGLISH! Well, other than this some heart throbbing pictures and paintings were hung all around the walls with lightening which intensified the beauty of pictures.

Since I was around ten minutes late, the front seats were already occupied so I had to go behind almost 35 people. I didn’t want to miss any part of the show anymore so I quickly adjusted myself and started enjoying the interesting skit which was going on.  The skit seemed to be representing my own story and I guess every person sitting there must be feeling the same way. Each and every dialogue gave us the laughs and the ‘hmms‘.

The skit was followed by a speaking session of Azeem Mustafa in which he told us how to discover yourself, believe in yourself, and to have faith in your abilities and how to do good to the society. They emphasized on doing what we loved and to be motivated towards our aims.

‘A goal is to be achieved by you and only you, not by someone else’  Azeem quoted as he was walking to and fro with the delightful artistic pictures in the background hung on the wall behind him. The soothing surrounding with motivational speech of the speaker was a good combination for us to absorb.

After Azeem Mustafa, Umair Lodhi took the charge of the stage with his motivational speech. He shared his own experiences and gave examples of Ameen Guljee and Jahangir Khan which were very inciting. He constantly gave some examples to prove his point. There were some lines which were very philosophical yet very inspiring such as “Every person has the ability to think the way they want to”. For example, when one is talking to you, you can think of it in two ways.  Are we listening or are they talking?  It’s totally upon us to decide what to choose” Then he asked us to stand and to TRY to lift our chairs up. As we lifted it up, he said “Why are you lifting it up? I just asked you to TRY”. We weren’t clear as to what point he was trying to accomplish there and I could see the question marks on everyone’s face but then Umair explained “See? This is what I’m aiming to explain you. There is no such word as TRYING, either you do it or you don’t” Isn’t that thought provoking? These sentences impressed everybody and he was given huge applause at the end of his speaking session.

We were asked to go upstairs for some refreshments but apart from refreshments; activities were also waiting for us. After seeing Rubik Cube, Guitar and different board games, my excitement to be in the event diverted to be there at T2F. Great event held in a great place is called a PERFECT COMBINATION!

We randomly selected tables and after sitting, introduced each other.  As soon as we were getting the hang of each other Umari Lodhi came and ask two people from each table to change their places with other group. I was one of those who changed the place in spite of my unsocial characteristics. I met Mohammed Askar sahib who is the vice principal of the KAIZEN college, a teacher of the same college and two more exciting people.

The main topic was to conduct S.W.O.T analysis on how WE can change the world. The topic was divided into subtopics for all groups. Some were given “exposure” as a subtopic; some had “technology”, some had “behaviors” and we had to do “communication skills”.

He asked to do this task without any resources provided. Fortunately we had the Lady with the brain who took out a paper, a pen and we started to jot our points. Although it wasn’t easy task but due to the brain of Mhd. Askar, it turned out to be comparatively easy but it was still a nice and healthy activity. We tried to jot everything we could. Just writing down wasn’t the task but we had to present our SWOT analysis to everyone too which was another challenging task for those who had stage fright. Everyone gave their best which could be seen through their presentations. Another best thing about the event was ICE-CREAMS!! Yes! We were given ice creams to chill while we were struggling hard.

When we were done with the analysis I went back to the previous table to mingle with the new people and tried to make friends. We chit chatted and played the guitar with broken strings. It was fun!

In the end, the girl who performed in the skit asked us to pen down our names for the certificates. Everyone received a certificate of participation from CUBE and then we had a memorable group photo with the whole amazing YOUNG TEAM which compromises of speakers, drama team, the management team and none other than young and energetic Umair Lodhi– owner and founder of CUBE. It was the end of our memorable three hours with some people of our own youth circle who taught us some basic rules of life which we were unconsciously aware of! But sometimes there is a need for someone to remind us those things again.

This was one of the events which can be a big step towards the change PAKISTANIS are desperate for because for any revolution we have to change ourselves first. We will have to REVOLUTIONIZE ourselves. We will have to believe in ourselves. In the end I would summarize everything I learnt in some words…” Motivation towards success is the language we should speak; devotion towards success is poison.